How to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome

October 24, 2015 at 9:30 pm

How to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome

How to overcome the Nice Guy Syndrome

How to overcome the Nice Guy Syndrome

A long time ago I was the archetype of a “Nice Guy” I didn’t knew how to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome.

And unfortunately without regarding how hard I tried and how much I did for beautiful women I was alone all the time, frustrated, and very depressed since I couldn’t understand why she preferred to date other men instead of me.

At some point in my life I had two choices:

  1. Develop a thick skin and become harsh after so many heartaches and deceptions, isolating yourself from others and living in the backstage of your life, and face a miserable life living bitter, frustrated, and miserable, or
  2. Learn how to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome and start living a life full of joy and happiness.

What I’m going to write you is not sugar coated, it’s the harsh and unvarnished truth so if you feel offended because I write something that hit a nerve… then it means I’m achieving my goal to wake you up and take you away from the path of sorrow.

If you feel just as half as I depressed as I felt for what seemed like an eternity, then it’s time to discover how to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome and abandone the path of sorrow,

 

The love of your life

  • Do you want to find someone who loves you without regarding if you are facing the worst of your defeats, or if you are achieving your ultimate success?
  • Do you want to meet someone who will accept you unconditionally with all your virtues, and all your defects?
  • Are you looking for the special one who knows you and understand you like nobody else will in this world? Who knows all the struggles that you are facing, all the the doubts and fears that you feel, and encourage to fight and work for your dreams.

I’m pretty sure your answer is a big YES, and now I want to ask you:

Are willing to love this person in the same way?

Quite probably your answer is also YES, so:

Are you ready to meet this incredible and unique person?

If you are, then step up and look into the mirror because the true love of your life is: You.

I’m not kidding: If you can’t love yourself and accept yourself just the way you are, then nobody else will and you will keep living a miserable life accepting lose-win deals, and you will keep wondering how to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome.

However if you are perfectly happy in your own company, inside your own skin and feel good about yourself, then there’s a better chance you will have better relationships, as self-confidence is inherently attractive.

Nice guy is deceptive because he is always trying to please other in expense of his own interest and is willing to sacrifice his well being for others. This is a manipulative behavior, because you are trying to make other people like you trying to fake something that you are not.

Find your Mission and your Passion

If you accept the fact that there is no other like you in this world, which makes you unique and special. Then you will reach to the conclusion that the reason you are in this world is to do something that nobody else can’t do, that is your mission in life.

As a man you are an agent of change, you are dangerous because you can make this world a better place, you can make the difference in your own life, your community, and the world.

The amazing thing is when you answer your calling, you become more energetic, and more attractive in a natural way.

Now if you have a mission in life you won’t waste your time, your energy, and your intellect in things that doesn’t matter. You will stop doing things that you dislike and makes you feel miserable because is other’s expectation of your life.

And doing those things that makes you feel passionate, gives you a different aura or vibe and yes this is also very attractive.

It’s your life!!! What are you going to do with it?

Your will replace those bad habits or vices that pull you down, and you will start adopting good habits or virtues that are aligned with the vision and mission in your life.

How to overcome the Nice guy syndrome ?

Do what you love and love what you do

 

Become a Gentleman

“The basic difference between an ordinary man and a warrior is that a warrior takes everything as a challenge while an ordinary man takes everything as a blessing or a curse.”

Embrace the conflict

Nice Guys always to try to make things smooth and avoid discussion and conflicts, nice guy stand for nothing and fall for everything. You never have an opinion of your own nor have any preferences, you allow others to choose what movie to watch, the place to eat, you allow others to tell you how to live your life, it’s your life what are you going to do?

It’s time for you to draw the line in the sand, to set your boundaries, and don’t accept what others tell you about how to live your life, you are a man, you are a warrior with your own opinion.

Make your needs a Priority

The Nice guy always has problems to make his needs a priority.

I have news for you, nobody cares about your problems, nobody will solve them for you. If you don’t take care of your own business and your own interest nobody will do it, because every body has eyes only in his own interests and needs.

So make your needs a priority.

Learn to say NO

As a Nice Guy you feel guilty if you say “No” so you do things that are against your own benefit and well-being: you sacrifice your time, your energy , your money and you don’t receive nothing in return, you accept lose-win deals.

Just keep in mind if you fail to learn to say no, you are going to end living the life nobody else wants, working in the job that nobody likes, and marrying the kind of woman nobody else would marry.

If your needs are your number one priority then you can honestly say “No” when something is going to hurt your own interest, doesn’t bring any benefit to you, remember you are looking for win-win deals or no deal.

I hope you have found useful these tips about how to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome

If you want to learn:

You are in the right place to learn how to change your mindset and #DontBeaNiceGuyAnymore and date the woman of your dreams!

Francisco

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